The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck Review
I have a confession to make. I have a slight girl crush on author Sarah Knight. She's just so damn cool...and clever to boot. Clever in a way that, try as I might, I may never achieve in my lifetime. I'm sure she wonders who this Tomes and Tequila chick is who likes all of her tweets like a giant obsessive fan girl. Or maybe she's obtained such a high degree of fame that she no longer notices trends like that in her analytics?!? One can only wonder....
My point...and I do actually have one...is that I really like her, and both of her books that I have now read. I have already reviewed Get Your Sh*t Together, which was laugh out loud funny yet filled with good practical tips...and now I have my review for The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck for your perusal.
Before I get started, I feel like I should let you know that I have already dropped the f-bomb once, and will probably use it more in this review. If this word bothers you, please don't buy this book...and maybe skip this review and come back to my blog tomorrow. I usually try not to cuss a lot on here because I know it's not for everyone, even though I have a potty mouth in real life. But this book is FILLED TO THE BRIM with the word fuck. Only Sarah Knight has a lesson to teach us, and it's one I really needed to hear. So for me, the F-word was well used. And honestly, for me it's just hard to keep putting that little asterisk in the place of the U.
Initially I thought this book by Sarah Knight was going to poke fun at Marie Kondo's book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, which is why I waited so long to read it. That is clearly not the case, as Sarah states that she read Kondo's book and loved it also...and thought she could apply the idea to another facet of her life. A mental decluttering of sorts. Hence this glorious little book, that read like a manual tailor made for keeping me from unnecessarily losing my shit on a regular basis.
Sarah Knight's "NotSorry Method" which is detailed in the book has two steps, which sound very simple...but for someone like me they are HUGE. Number one is to decide what you don't give a fuck about. And number two is to not give a fuck about those things. Simple, yes? Sarah breaks them down for you hilariously, even giving examples of things she herself has decided she doesn't give a fuck about, and how she's gone about removing them from her life. She discusses making and sticking with a "fuck budget", and how not to be an asshole when implementing your new plan. For a nice worrier like me, this is ground-breaking stuff.
I could've highlighted this entire book really. And I wanted to share it all with y'all. But perhaps I should just say that I highly recommend it if you're looking for something funny and cleverly entertaining to read and/or you are someone with a personality similar to mine. I am a worrier and a people pleaser. If you only knew the amount of time I've wasted worrying about truly ridiculous things. I'm talking crap like whether people would think my earrings are too silly, or my shoes look too comfortable. I am at times crippled with self-doubt, and a lot of it is tied to the fucks I've given over to other people. I think that 2017 is the year that I make some headway in curbing this issue of mine.
Of all the tips in this book, I think my favorite is using Personal Policies as a way to "conserve your fucks swiftly, efficiently, and with an extremely low risk of hurt feelings". She even gives you a fill in the blanks form to use! So for example, I could say I have a personal policy against attending bachelorette parties...or donating to GoFundMe accounts...or buying Girl Scout Cookies, etc. It's a blanket policy saying hey, if I do it once I will feel obligated to do it for everyone and I just can't afford to do that. This is BRILLIANT stuff!
So, suffice it to say, I loved this book. Sarah Knight is in the process of writing a new one, and I am vowing right here that I will be one of the first to buy it (unless I can nab that puppy early, in which case count me in!!). I listen to her TED talk to remind me that I shouldn't be giving my fucks out so carelessly. And I will probably reread this often, as I'm sure it will take a bit to sink into my brain. Plus I will continue to fan girl over her Twitter feed...
I probably could've just filled this up with quotes and the words Love Love Love, go out and buy it. OH, and if you're on Instagram and haven't seen it, go take a look at my photo of a fave quote that I didn't share here in the review. That one is still cracking me up...
But don't buy the book if your name is Gail and you work in Marketing. Trust me on this one. 😁